The simple fact is you cannot not communicate. Our words covey meaning and even our silences tell tales. Our body language may shout louder than words. Even when we are alone, we communicate within ourselves, mumbling out loud or murmuring in our minds. We cannot not communicate. So it just plain makes sense to learn how to do it better. In these pages you will find my take on both communication theory and real world applications that we can use to communicate more authentically. Even little changes can pay off big dividends in our personal and professional lives. Let’s explore and reflect on how communication touches every aspect of our lives.

Thursday, May 22, 2014

Communication is Fundamental, It Matters! Let's Learn to do it Better.

If we are going to talk about communication, I guess we'd better begin at the

Okay, maybe not quite that far back. But almost.

The Constitutive Theory of Communication

The Constitutive Model of Communication is the idea that communication “constitutes” or creates our perception or experience of the reality we inhabit.
You are Powerful

I am reminded of some of the thoughts that went through my mind as I went through the CAPSA advocate training program. CAPSA is a local shelter and advocate group for survivors of domestic abuse and rape. I have long agreed with the sentiment that words matter, and in conversations on the difficult topic of abuse and rape, or during my CAPSA training sessions, every time I heard a certain word, I cringed. Literally, I felt myself contracting, becoming smaller. The word is victim.  As a word it conjures up a sense of helplessness, tragedy, loss and suffering; as a level of self-identification it creates a sense of helplessness, tragedy, loss, and suffering. My reaction to the “word-that-shall-not-be-spoken” became clearer to me when I learned about the Constitutive Theory of Communication.